Seventh Sense

Continuing with the statement, Love at first meeting”. We have a seventh sense if we choose to be open to it. I used to raise German Sheppard’s. They were for the most part friendly to people I invited into my home. However on a occasions they would not stop growling at certain people who came to my home. I paid attention to this and would discover these people were not people I wanted in my home. Yes-we too have senses like mans best friend. I am not saying we are dogs. But that wouldn’t be too bad with a doting owner. To go on…several years ago I was meeting some friends for an evening of dancing.
I walked into the lounge to see my friends sitting at a table. They had arrived early and were the only people in the room at the time. As I took off my coat preparing to join them, I was stopped by the sense of someone else’s presence near. I couldn’t sit down. I had to know who this invisible person I felt was. I started towards the room divider. I knew someone was behind it. Suddenly a face appeared looking around the divider straight into my eyes. A voice came from the face, “You looking at me?” He felt my presence too. I still have to laugh at the craziness of it. It was not love at first sight. I have to call it, “love at first sense”. Or seventh sense. Some would call it pheromones. Wikipedia has an excellent article about pheromones which refers to humans and animals. (Back to being animals.) Despite feeling a deep and binding love for this person we are not lovers. We have remained friends of the heart for many years. We have explored this phenomenon that brought us to be friends. It is not sexual. We live very different lives, in different cities. We very seldom have the opportunity to talk face to face. But not a week goes by that we don’t have a conversation by phone. We cannot imagine not being friends. In the beginning we did think the feeling was about being lovers-in love. We took our time discovering what the overwhelming feeling was all about. As special as it is, it isn’t about being together. There are many levels to love. I am thankful we did not rush into something that may have ruined our continuing friendship. I have grown emotionally from discovering this level of love and friendship.

I have a friend who falls in Love often. She falls in love as often as I pay my bills. That's about every two weeks. I have several aquintances who behave in this fashion.

Because a person feels an all consuming emotion for someone - does it mean lasting togetherness? Love IS a forever feeling. It doesn't go away. This instant connection is not meant to be an instant life commitment. Because you hit it off doesn't mean the next step is moving in together. Ah-some of us have no control. I want it and I want it now. I am sure there are real feelings stirring for her. I believe she is in love with the ideal - not the person. I try to encourage her to think of this connection as a stepping stone that could eventually be a real relationship. The journey of exploring who this person really is and his place in her life is like unwrapping a present. I unwrap mine slowly. Anticipation makes our hearts beat with hope and joy. It's sad when people skip the good parts. When a relationship is rushed into-that overwhelming emotion is too often destroyed by unfounded expectations. Un-founded meaning no foundation. I do believe in love at first sight. I have to change a word in that statement though. I believe in love at first meeting. Love at first sight is visual. An obsession with how a person appears. "Oh wow! See that good looking man over there. He's hot" Come on. We all know this does not a love story make. But love at first meeting-well - it does happen.

To be continued.

Introduction to Life Notes

In Life Notes I will be writing about life. It will be an unplanned journey of thoughts, ideals and life events. I hope readers will tune in and discover a bonding communication.Perhaps an "Ah-Ha !" moment or two. My desire is to write with an open honesty that may open your thoughts to wonder. Have you ever thought about something and felt it wasn't something you could discuss with your acquitances? No one would be interested if you philosophized about that subject. Right? Then you here someone else talking about that very subject and it doesn't seem so silly or out of place any more. It creates a sense of comradeship and understanding. It feels good to know someone else thinks like you do. I hope I can create those feeling for you here.